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Henry Symes "Harry" Lehr (March 28, 1869 – January 3, 1929) was an American socialite during the Gilded Age who was dubbed "America's Court Jester".[1]

Henry Symes Lehr was born on March 28, 1869.[2] He was the fourth child in a family of seven born to Mary Frances Moore Lehr (1834-1922), and Robert Oliver Lehr (1832-1890), a tobacco and snuff importer who became the German consul in Baltimore and a governor of the Maryland Club.[1] His sister was Alice Lehr Morton (d. 1927) and his brother was Dr. Louis Lehr, who was a physician.[3]

He attempted to establish himself as successor to Ward McAllister, arbiter elegantiarum of New York's Four Hundred, the collection of Knickerbocker and industrial families he created as a bulwark against the new wealth of the Gilded Age.[4] He was known for staging elaborate parties alongside Marion "Mamie" Fish, such as the so-called "dog's dinner", in which 100 pets of wealthy friends dined at foot-high tables while dressed in formal attire[5] At a later party, he impersonated the Czar of Russia, and was henceforth dubbed "King Lehr".[6]

Lehr was never accepted as an equal by high society. Grace Graham Wilson, wife of Cornelius Vanderbilt III, who assumed the throne of Mrs. Astor after her death, had little regard for Lehr's antics.[7] When his patron Mrs. Astor died, Lehr allied himself with Mrs. Stuyvesant Fish of New York and Newport. Together, they bucked the formality and rigidity that characterized social life in Gilded Age New York. The result was practical jokes and entertainments that brought disgrace onto "The Four Hundred" and caused their rebuke in the nation's pulpits and periodicals.[7]

In 1900, Lehr was introduced to recently widowed 32 year old heiress Elizabeth "Bessie" Wharton Drexel Dahlgren (1868–1944). the widow of John Vinton Dahlgren I and daughter of the late Philadelphia banker Joseph William Drexel, by Edith Gould, the wife of George Jay Gould.[7] Edith told Bessie that he had "hardly any money, but he goes everywhere," and that it was "impossible to have a party without him."[7] Gould also told her that the men didn't like him, and called him "one of 'the little brothers of the rich,' but that's just because they are jealous of his popularity."[7] They saw each other often and in March, Lehr took her to Sherry's where he introduced her to Caroline Schermerhorn Astor (married to William Backhouse Astor Jr.), Marion Graves Anthon Fish (married to Stuyvesant Fish), Theresa Fair Oelrichs (married to Hermann Oelrichs), and Alva Belmont (who was divorced from William Kissam Vanderbilt and married to Oliver Belmont).[7] After meeting the society doyennes approval, Lehr proposed to Bessie on the way home.[7][8]

Lehr and Bessie were married at the Cathedral in Philadelphia in 1901.[9][10] After the wedding, they traveled to the Stafford Hotel in Baltimore, where Lehr refused to sleep with her on their wedding night,[11][12] stating:

"In public I will be to you everything that a most devoted husband should be to his wife. You shall never complain of my conduct in this respect. I will give you courtesy, respect and apparently devotion. But you must expect nothing more from me. When we are alone I do not intend to keep up the miserable pretense, the farce of love and sentiment. Our marriage will never be a marriage in anything but in name. I do not love you. I can never love you. I can school myself to be polite to you but that is all. The less we see of one another except in the presence of others, the better.[7]

They stayed in a loveless, unconsummated marriage for 28 years, as Lehr benefited from her wealth, she from his social connections and her strong wish to not upset her conservative, staunchly Catholic mother, Lucy (née Wharton) Drexel.[13]

He was diagnosed in 1923, the year he suffered "a general breakdown" while in Paris,[14] and had a brain tumor removed in 1927.[15] He died on January 3, 1929 of a brain malady at Johns Hopkins Hospital in Baltimore.[1] At the time of his death, Bessie was in France staying at the home of Alva's daughter Consuelo Vanderbilt and her husband Jacques Balsan (after her divorce from Charles Spencer-Churchill, 9th Duke of Marlborough).[7] His funeral was held at St. Ignatius Church in Baltimore and he was buried in the family lot in Green Mount Cemetery.[16] Under the terms of his will, he left all of his property in the Untied States to his sisters and his possessions in Paris to his widow.[17]

Lehr was,[18] in fact, gay and rumored to have had a longstanding relationship with friend and fellow Newport cottager Charles E. Greenough.[7] Lehr owned, and hung in his bedroom, a nude painting by R.G. Harper Pennington of Robert Gould Shaw II as the character "Little Billee" from the bohemian novel Trilby (1894) by George du Maurier.[19][20]

Lehr appears as a supporting character in Gore Vidal's 1987 novel Empire.[21]

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  1. "HARRY S. LEHR DIES; ONCE SOCIAL LEADER; Succumbs to a Brain Malady in Johns Hopkins Hospital, Baltimore.LATE MRS. ASTOR'S ADVISERNoted for Daring and Originality of His Parties--Married Mrs.J. V. Dahlgren, Heiress. Quickly Got Into Limelight. Furore Over". The New York Times. January 4, 1929. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  2. "Lehr, Harry". Find a Grave. Retrieved September 26, 2016.
  3. "Harry Lehr's sister dies. Mrs. Alice Morton Had Lived in France Since Her Marriage". New York Times. August 24, 1927.
  4. Washington Post; September 26, 1903. Some Thoughts on Harry Lehr. Those very industrious and entertaining gossips who spend so much time exploiting the antics of Mr. Harry Lehr do not appear to have considered the possibility that he may be anything rather than the fool they would have him. This very alert and resourceful young gentleman, it will be well to remember, has prospered most amazingly as the result of his more or less dignified activities in connection with the Newport smart set.
  5. Vanderbilt II, Arthur T. Fortune's Children. Wm. Morrow and Co., 1989: 243. ISBN 0-688-07279-8.
  6. Vanderbilts, 244
  7. "Society As He Found It: Harry Lehr". New York Social Diary. 23 August 2012. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  8. "Harry Lehr Not Engaged". The New York Times. 18 March 1901. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  9. "Lady Decies, Widow of Irish Peer, Dies; Former Elizabeth Drexel of Philadelphia Was Once the Wife of Harry Lehr". New York Times. June 14, 1944.
  10. "Record of the Rich". Time. August 5, 1935. Retrieved 2007-07-21. In Paris in 1929 Mrs. Elizabeth Drexel Lehr heard that her husband was dead. To the daughter of Philadelphia Banker Joseph William Drexel, that event meant that the "tragic farce" of a 28-year marriage had ended, that she was now free to tell her story. A bitter, disillusioned book, "King Lehr" is memorable for the lurid light it throws on U. S. Society of the Gilded Age, may confidently be opened as one of the most startling and scandalously intimate records of life among the wealthy yet written by one of them.
  11. Vanderbilt II, Arthur T. Fortune's Children. Wm. Morrow and Co., 1989: 235-7. ISBN 0-688-07279-8
  12. Adams, Michael Henry (1 July 2009). "Queers in the Mirror: A Brief History of Old-Fashioned Gay Marriage in New York, Part One". Huffington Post. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  13. Decies, Lady (1935). King Lehr and the Gilded Age. Bedford, Massachusetts: Applewood Books. ISBN 1-55709-963-4.
  14. "HARRY S. LEHR VERY ILL.; Former New York Society Leader Suffers a Breakdown in Paris". The New York Times. 5 December 1923. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  15. "Harry S. Lehr Still in Hospital". The New York Times. January 25, 1927. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  16. "HARRY S. LEHR BURIED.; Former Social Leader's Funeral Held in Baltimore Church". The New York Times. January 6, 1929. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  17. "WILL OF H.S. LEHR IS FILED.; Society Man Bequeathed Property to Widow and Relatives." The New York Times. 3 April 1929. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  18. "Etiquetteer Reviews "King Lehr" and the Gilded Age, Vol. 16, Issue 31". Etiquetteer. August 9, 2017. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  19. Decies, Elizabeth Wharton Drexel Beresford (1935). King Lehr and the gilded age (The leisure class in America). Philadelphia, London: J.B. Lippincott Company. ISBN 978-0-405-06918-5.
  20. Winship, Kihm (26 February 2013). "On a Painting that Might Be R.G. Shaw II". Faithful Readers. Retrieved 1 March 2018.
  21. Vidal, Gore (2000). Empire: A Novel. Vintage International. ISBN 9780375708749. Retrieved 1 March 2018.