Partner Richard Howard

Queer Places:
Carnegie Institute of Technology, 5000 Forbes Ave, Pittsburgh, PA 15213
Juilliard School, 60 Lincoln Center Plaza, New York, NY 10023

Sanford Friedman (June 11, 1928 – April 20, 2010) was an American novelist. He was gay and his books often featured LGBT themes.[1] Friedman's Totempole (1965) features an army love affair between its protagonist and a North Korean doctor war prisoner. Some have identified the Stephen Wolfe persona in this novel as being the first instance of a main character who is both Jewish and gay in American fiction. Totempole was a formative work for me. To my knowledge it contains the only literary treatment of instructions for being able to enjoy passive anal intercourse. It is a beautiful scene, and one I've rarely heard anyone talk about. I met Friedman once, a man of rigorous intelligence and refinement. His novel had a huge impact on me. --Gilbert Cole

Friedman was born to a Jewish family[2] in New York City, the second son of Leonard Friedman and Madeline Uris; his elder brother, B. H. Friedman, also became a writer. A 1945 graduate of the Horace Mann School, and in the same class as his lifelong friend Allard K. Lowenstein, Friedman earned his BFA from the Carnegie Institute of Technology. From 1951 to 1953, he served in the US Army as a military policeman in Korea, where he was awarded a Bronze Star. He taught writing at the Juilliard School and at SAGE.[3] He was a friend to many noted artists, among them Lee Krasner and Fritz Bultman, and for several years Friedman was the companion of the noted American poet, translator, and critic Richard Howard. Howard dedicated his poem "1915: A Pre-Raphaelite Ending, London" to him. Friedman also was active off-Broadway as a writer and producer, collaborating with actor Howard Da Silva; author Ben Maddow; and playwright Arnold Perl. Perl's play "Tevya and his Daughters" (1957) -- co-produced by Friedman and starring Mike Kellin as Sholem Aleichem's dairyman—was the inspiration for "Fiddler on the Roof (1964)."

by Robert Giard

In 1965 Friedman was given the O. Henry Award from the Society of Arts & Sciences for Ocean, which formed part of his novel Totempole.

In 1968, Friedman signed the "Writers and Editors War Tax Protest" pledge, vowing to refuse tax payments in protest against the Vietnam War.[4] Friedman died of a heart attack in his Manhattan apartment on April 20, 2010.

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