Partner Ellen E. Miles

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Image result for Phebe Ann Coffin HanafordPhebe Ann Coffin Hanaford (May 6, 1829 - June 2, 1921) may be America's earliest certifiable lesbian minister. According to Lisa M. Tetrault, Hanaford was born in Siasconset on Nantucket Island on May 6, 1829, the only child of the merchant and shipowner George W. Coffin and his wife Phebe Ann Barnardn. Both were Quakers and direct descendants of the island's first white settlers, Tristram Coffin and Peter Folger.

Beginning in 1857, Phebe began to live in other towns on mainland Massachusetts, with her husband Dr. Joseph Hanaford. During the 1850s and 1860s, as Phebe raised her children, she became a highly successful author, and later gave her first sermons, having joined the Unitarian ministry. While visiting Nantucket in 1865, she accepted her father's invitation to give her first sermon. A year later, she was "surprised and honored," when asked to substitute in South Canton, New York, for the Rev. Olympia Brown, the first ordained Universalist woman minister. "I dared not refuse to go," she said, "it seemed to be the Lord's call. [So] I went." Phebe separated from her husband and accepted a position with the First Universalist Church of New Haven, Connecticut, in 1870, at an annual salary of $2,000. That same year she served as chaplain for the Connecticut Legislature.

At the time she first took the pulpit, Hanaford was also becoming an important leader in the women's rights movement. Together with other leaders of a feminist-abolitionist coalition, such as Lucy Stone, Julia Ward Howe, Thomas Wentworth Higginson, and William Lloyd Garrison, she helped establish the American Woman Suffrage Organization (1869). In the following decade, when Hanaford accepted a position with the Universalist Church of the Good Shepherd in Jersey City, NJ, the congregation split, ostensibly over her women's rights activities. Legend has it that her political activism alienated her congregation. She refused a demand to abandon politics, and in 1877 a majority of voting members failed to reappoint her. Hanaford then formed a second Universalist society at a rented auditorium and preached there for the next several years.

"Hanaford's letters and papers, however, offer a somewhat different explanation for the split," says Lisa Tetrault. "Hanaford had begun living with a woman named Ellen E. Miles (1838-1914). Newspaper clippings preserved in Hanaford's scrapbook reported that the disgruntlement among congregation members was, in fact, over Hanaford's liaison with Miles, whom the papers called the 'minister's wife.' Hanaford, it seems, was not simply asked to cease her women's rights activities, but more specifically, to 'dismiss' Miss Miles... their letters testify to a deep and abiding affection. The two remained life-long companions, separated after forty-four years together only by Miles's death in 1914."

Hanaford published a poem in 1870 as a dedicatory sonnet at the beginning of From Shore to Shore:

To Ellen Miles
Friend of my later years, whose tender love
Has filled my home with blossoms, sweet though late,
Whose noble heart my spirit must approve,
As Duty’s path thou tread’st with willing feet:
Thy welcome service, at Love’s bidding mine,
As these my rhythmic waifs are gathered now,
Calls for a grateful tribute, and I twine
This simple wreath, dear Nellie, for thy brow.
Soul-sister! may the waiting years for thee
Pour out a largess of such holy joy
That earth shall seem the porch of heaven to be,
And songs of praise thy tuneful lips employ!
Then, while eternal years shall onward roll,
Still may we share Love’s summer of the soul!

When Miles died in 1914 her newspaper obituary read: “. . .she [Phebe] and Miss Miles formed a very intimate personal friendship which continued without interruption so long as Miss Miles lived. She was a woman of exceedingly kindly nature, conscientious in her life, strong in her friendships, and inflexible in her sense of duty.”

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  2. "A Paper Trail: Piecing Together the Life of Phebe Hanaford," by Lisa M. Tetrault: