Partner Gean Harwood

The lives of '''Bruhs Mero''' (February 15, 1911 - August 10, 1995) and '''L. Eugene "Gean" Harwood''' (1909-2006) are recounted in the book by Harwood, ''The Oldest Gay Couple in America: A Seventy-Year Journey Through Same-Sex America''.

L. Eugene "Gean" Harwood was born in Auburn, New York, where he first studied music.

Bruhs Mero and Gean Harwood were partners in life and music. They wrote their first composition, "Come and Take My Hand", in 1933. The text was a poem by Mero, who was forced to live alone in Florida for a period due to the lack of jobs in New York City; the loneliness pushed him to wrote the poem and he sent it to Harwood who put it in music. More than 50 other songs would follow.

Harwood worked for Paramount Pictures in New York City for twenty years; he made transportation arrangements for actors and executives. In this role, he had the chance to meet Cary Grant and Randolph Scott and to his impression, it was clear they were more than just friends.[1] Harwood later became administrative assistant for the New York City's building department, retiring in 1971.

Bruhs at first worked in advertising and later became a professional dancer, working on and off Broadway. He also taught dance and coreographed modern dance performances using the music of Harwood. In 1939 Mero and Harwood opened the Dance Gallery. In 1943 Mero had his first solo performance at Broadway with Harwood playing piano, but an hearth attack interrupted his dance career. After that Mero worked as a writer for a trade publication.

On June 30, 1985, during the New York Pride, Gean Harwood and Bruhs Mero were ailed as "Grand Marshals".[2]

After Mero's death in 1995, Harwood remained active: he played the piano into his 90s and was active in the Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders (SAGE).[3]

The unwelcomed climate of Upstate New York pushed Harwood to move to New York City where he met Mero in 1929. They first kissed on New Year's Eve 1929 and remained together for 66 years, until Mero's death in 1995. They lived in an Lower East Side studio apartment. In 1991 Mero moved to a nursing home, but Harwood continued to visit him constantly, even if Mero, affected by Alzheimer’s disease, did not recognized him anymore.[4]

Harwood never came out to his family, and Mero did it only in 1979. They kept their relationship private until 1985 when they made coming out on ''The Phil Donahue Show''.[5] [6]

Bruhs Mero died from Alzheimer’s disease on August 10, 1995. Harwood died in 2006.[7]

Bruhs Mero and Gean Harwood are profiled in ''Silent Pioneers'', a 1984 documentary by Lucy Winter, Harvey Marks, Paula de Koenigsberg, and Patricia G. Snyder,[8] and ''For Better or for Worse'', the musical chronicling their love affair, was an Academy Award-nomination in 1993.

A second musical, ''Sixty Years with Bruhs & Gean'', written by Tom Wilson Weinberg and directed by Jim Vivyan, was produced in 2008. The musical was commissioned by the New York City Gay Men's Chorus and originally performed at Carnegie Hall and Lincoln Center and featured on "In The Life" on PBS.[9]

Bruhs Mero and Gean Harwood are profiled in ''Family: a portrait of gay and lesbian America'', by Nancy Andrews (1994)[10] and in ''Living happily ever after: couples talk about lasting love'' (1996).[11]


  1. ^ cite book|last1=Abrams|first1=Brett L.|title=Hollywood Bohemians: Transgressive Sexuality and the Selling of the Movieland Dream|date=2008|publisher=McFarland|page=154|url=https://books.google.it/books?id=GleQBQAAQBAJ&pg=PA154|accessdate=24 September 2017
  2. ^ cite web|title=Collection #86 Heritage of Pride Records|url=https://gaycenter.org/community/archive/collection/086|accessdate=24 September 2017
  3. ^ cite journal|title=Party Celebrates Club for Gay and Gray|journal=The New York Times|date=1988|url=https://www.nytimes.com/1988/04/13/nyregion/party-celebrates-club-for-gay-and-gray.html|accessdate=24 September 2017
  4. ^ cite journal|title=The Advocate 14 Jun 1994|journal=The Advocate|date=1994|page=28|url=https://books.google.it/books?id=QGMEAAAAMBAJ&pg=PA28|accessdate=24 September 2017
  5. ^ cite journal|title=Forever Yours|journal=People|date=1997|url=http://people.com/archive/forever-yours-vol-47-no-6/|accessdate=24 September 2017
  6. ^ cite book|last1=Gamson|first1=Joshua|title=Freaks Talk Back: Tabloid Talk Shows and Sexual Nonconformity|date=2009|publisher=University of Chicago Press|page=51|url=https://books.google.it/books?id=rtXcAvu5klAC&pg=PA51|accessdate=24 September 2017
  7. ^ cite web|title=Artist Biography by Dave Lynch|url=http://www.allmusic.com/artist/gean-harwood-mn0001817135|accessdate=24 September 2017
  8. ^ cite book|last1=Barsam|first1=Richard Meran|title=Nonfiction Film: A Critical History|date=1992|publisher=Indiana University Press|page=368|url=https://books.google.it/books?id=z7p36FdLYdIC&pg=PA368|accessdate=24 September 2017
  9. ^ cite web|title=A timeless love story|url=http://www.capecodtimes.com/article/20080418/entertain/80418004|accessdate=24 September 2017
  10. ^ cite book|last1=Andrews|first1=Nancy|title=Family: a portrait of gay and lesbian America|date=1994|publisher=HarperSanFrancisco, a division of HarperCollinsPublishers|url=https://books.google.it/books?id=PRgEAQAAIAAJ|accessdate=24 September 2017
  11. ^ cite book|last1=Wagner|first1=Laurie|last2=Rausser|first2=Stephanie|last3=Collier|first3=David|title=Living happily ever after: couples talk about lasting love|date=1996|publisher=Chronicle Books|url=https://books.google.it/books?id=xf4fAQAAIAAJ|accessdate=24 September 2017